Shared joint custody parenting bad for Dads and children

JOINT CUSTODY DOES NOT WORK

The Government's War on Fathers

Across the Nation judges are pushing shared custody where a child must live with the mother one week and the father the next. As advocates for children The National Meditation Center objects to shared custody . It causes the child to have to lack emotional security that one home gives it causes the child to have to live in to worlds where often the rules are different and constantly conflicting. Judges have to quit trying to social engineering society with he law. They must realize that when the family is over its over and only one parent can realistically raise a child.

Judges need to start punishing bad conduct in marriages that destroys the marriage and quit encouraging divorce by always giving equal assets and child support to spouses that destroy the marriage. our court system encourages bad conduct and divorce by no fault divorce

Some estimates say that 70% of divorces are filed for by women . The common excuse there just not happy. So our courts let individuals men or women who just aren't happy destroy the lives of their children and yours.

And then make you obey their conduct rules after your divorced. We have created a judicial system that encourages divorce and tell children divorce and the parents bad conduct are okay We have socially engineered the next generation of divorce candidates and then destroy the child life by making them no more than baggage going back and forth .

Shared custody does not solve a fathers problems it just causes more. It is unreasonable and impractical in today's society to expect that a parent can remain in one location forever. We know of one case where a father was actually ordered to live in the same town with his wife. His rights to be free and move to wherever he could go to help make his Childs life better where nonexistent because of shared parenting.

While we agree with DR Baskervilles quote we do not agree with shared parenting in some cases children are being made to move weekly between homes this is abusive Shared parenting is also forcing some children to be exposed to parents with mental health problems drug addiction and worse.

Men before you vote for a judge let him know you want him to enforce a fathers right in divorce court. Make it a platform

"The advent of “no-fault” divorce in the US has given rise to a system that strips fathers of their rights, accelerates the breakdown of families, and makes a mockery of the marital contract". Quote professor Stephen Baskerville PHD
Dr. Stephen Baskerville's Website

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Or maybe the road to hell isn't paved with such good intentions

Look what happened to joint custody. As a lifestyle, it just does not work. Fathers don't need shared custody it puts them at risk fathers' rights groups are pushing for it but it does not solve problems

Simply men need courts to quit discriminating against fathers.

When parents do not want or willingly agree to Joint Custody, fathers will have problems. The problems simply appear as a delay of the causes of the breakup or divorce. A list of some of the problems that fathers have after obtaining "Joint Custody" are as follows:

"By his asking for "Joint Custody" he is trying to take away a parent's right to ask for "sole Custody" of the children.
He must still PAY CHILD SUPPORT.
He is still regulated by a "visitation schedule".
She still has the right to "move away", and take the child(ren).
"Joint Custody" does not provide a "Dispute Resolution" process for the parents next dispute, then what?

Our society encourages women to bring claims or charges of abuse against the father for
child abuse, and/or
spousal abuse
and the biggest problem of all..........

The child has no actual psychological home. Psychological researchers who have expressed negative opinions about joint custody include, among others, Anna Freud and Judith Wallerstein. In short, a major problem is the child's, in Wallerstein's words, living a life in "no man's land." Having children routinely shift as a temporary resident between two households that have other permanent members who "really" live there presents a destructive outlook for a child, damaging of identity and self-esteem. Young children form a sense of identity from their family base, and, notwithstanding the fiction, joint custody does not give the child a whole family, nor does it approximate a two-parent intact home. The child, in fact, is central and permanent to no home, which only reinforces the trauma of the divorce split.
By accepting "Joint Custody", the father has damaged himself in the eyes of the Court, because the father has never said that he could raise his children by himself, (without the mother if necessary) as a "fit and proper parent" (leaving open the question as to the father's abilities, and all other fathers).
By accepting "Joint Custody" a father will also damage other fathers who have "Sole Custody" and do a fine job of raising their children, but getting no notice and/or respect from "Joint Custody" fathers, and the judicial system.
By accepting "Joint Custody" without knowing, or asking "Joint Custody" advocates about the failure rate of "Joint Custody" among fathers in the past, Fathers will be betting on their children's future, based upon the word of the woman that just failed them and divorced them with "No Fault" divorce laws.

The legal definition of "Joint Custody" is nebulous at best and is not supported by the U.S. Dept. of Human Services, nor any of the Welfare Offices of the 50 States. When a parent (mostly mothers) goes on welfare, she is not granted "Joint Custody". When a welfare check is cut, it is not sent to both parents. Fathers are continuously being mislead by the non-father Joint Custody activists masquerading as "Fathers Rights" activists. Furthermore, these non-father joint custody activist fail to say at any time in their presentations who will buy the child's food, prepare the meals, and actually feed their child. Joint Custody activists fail to say who will bathe the child, wash the clothes and deal with the child's cuts and bruises. Judges, and mothers see through this lack of attention to the needs of the child even though the activists will give meaningless platitudes about "children deserve two parents".

Wrong! Children need two parents that are willing to work together for the benefit of the children, and not file papers that say that they have "Irreconcilable Differences", because from that point on, the children will be paying the price.

Even Congress takes a dim view of Joint Custody, click and read here. HCR 182 - Expressing the sense of Congress with respect to child custody, child abuse, and victims of domestic and family violence. (Introduced in the House)
Finally, there are no known large groups of mothers asking Law Makers or the Courts for "Joint Custody" laws, therefore, we must ask, who do these guys think that they are fooling, . . .themselves?
The following factors are the only ones that consistently have been related to positive child adjustment post divorce and are consistent with the findings of all relevant research:
A low level of conflict between parents if parents could not get along before will they get along later. This is not two homes taking care of a child its no home for the child being sent back and forth leaves no structure. In one house he ma be raised catholic the next Baptist this screws a kind up.